{"id":45,"date":"2025-08-03T18:13:10","date_gmt":"2025-08-03T18:13:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/toxicex.com\/?p=45"},"modified":"2025-08-03T18:13:10","modified_gmt":"2025-08-03T18:13:10","slug":"why-you-stay-at-abusive-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/toxicex.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/03\/why-you-stay-at-abusive-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Why you stay at abusive relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">When you realize that you are living with an abuser, it might be too late to prevent your emotional and even physical damage. Why do we not recognise that the partner has aggression issues, possessiveness, control, and manipulative signs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Important to mention that when we talk about domestic violence, we do not assume that the abuser is a male figure. Maybe for some, it would be hard to accept that women can have the same qualities and can be very cruel to their male or female partners. <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Actually,<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> important to emphasize that <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">here<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> I <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">am going to research<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> relationships between men and women <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">due to<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> my own experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Okay, once you have noticed that your other half is toxic, what are you going to do? Leave immediately? No way. It is <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">a very rare<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> case scenario. So, why not leave an abusive relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">The human brain is a strange organism. <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Love will blind us like goggles, <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">which make<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> us <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">not<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> see through the happy mist<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">all<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> the negativity in our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">What is love? It creates irrational patterns such as:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">You <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">actually<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> love your partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">You hope that behaviour will change<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">You might feel responsible for the mental condition of your partners<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Shame. Yes, it <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">is embarrassing<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> to explain to your family and friends what is going on.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">There could be dozens of other reasons not to escape the hell. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Manipulative, toxic partners make you feel guilty for their actions. <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Like<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> it <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">is again<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> your fault<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, you could <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">just<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> act a bit<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> differently, <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">and<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> nothing bad <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">could<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> have happened.<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> And you believe it. <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Please do not blame yourself<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">you are not stupid or blind<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, it<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> is <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">exactly<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> how it works.<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> It is a swamp. It holds you. And there are <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">very beautiful<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> moments that happen after the toxic, dramatic, and traumatic episodes. Honeymoon. Tyrant has to make you sure that he is very sorry about the prior situation, promises that it will never happen again, buys you flowers and other stuff, and is kind and gentle. And you fall for it. Over and over again, and you believe your partner that it was the last shit that had happened. Guess what? Bullshit!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">That&#8217;s<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> why it could take a very long time to vanish yourself from that. You are not alone. There are many of us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Continues with \u201cMethods of Manipulation\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you realize that you are living with an abuser, it might be too late to prevent your emotional and even physical damage. Why do we not recognise that the partner has aggression issues, possessiveness, control, and manipulative signs. 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